Daily Distraction #36 : Zombies

It's almost Halloween, and I figured it was the right time to throw this little picture up that I've been saving. I suspect Tom will extra appreciate it - he's got a thing for zombies.And for pretty girls too, but the girl thing isn't all that rare really ;)

I always struggle with finding a cool costume. Sure, I can go as a fetish phreak, but how's that a costume? And I don't like the idea of spending real time or money on something that's really for one night, but I don't like the idea of buying some cheap polyester thing that looks like crap and itches. Maybe there is some sissy outfit I can borrow from the dungeon... hrm. Either way, maybe it's time to just think outside the box.

Dungeons are serious places!

I have been having quite a bit of fun with the new dynamic in my life. For starters I'm putting my totally butch man skillz to work and having fun adding to the play space at Command Performance. But I'm definitely having fun just being a part of something more consistently in the lifestyle.

Last Friday I took some play pictures with Ladies Regina & Lotus, and the houseboy Janet. Lady Regina wants to update their gallery and they're having some pro shots done, but its always good to have some more casual play pictures too. Just being there to watch the joy and enthusiasm with which they play was great fun, even if as a part of my contract that every time I go to the dungeon I have to lockup in my chastity belt again. And tomorrow will mark the 4th Thursday in a row that I've been locked - (not continuously locked mind you) but still I'm spending more time chastised than not since starting this new dynamic. Its been interesting, to say the least ;)

I realized about a week after signing the contract that the "must put belt on if I go to the dungeon" might also discourage me from going to the dungeon all the time and I contacted Lady Regina to see if she might be open to modifying the agreement, particularly in cases where I would just drop by to deliver something or a spur of the moment visit. She flatly informed me that if I ever let the chastity clause discourage me from coming to the dungeon I would regret it.

"If you ever showed up at the dungeon without being locked up, I will be sure to do something to your meat that will make you wish you had never taken it off."

*gulp*

*sigh*

I tell ya what, that has made it rather easy to make sure I'm chastity when I come to the dungeon.

In case you don't know French

For those of you who don't know French, this film is entirely about two Mistresses who own a slave and live a very public vanilla lifestyle, but are all fetish maniacs behind closed doors. In the opening scene, the blond mistress (who is known for her harsh handedness) is reuniting the slave with his original mistress, the brunette. In the later scenes the couple are discussing his chastity and prostate milking regimens.



For those of you who do know French, don't ruin it for the lucky ones who don't ;)

Oh, and don't think I haven't noticed the blog has been a little extra focused on smoking lately. I'm not obsessed with it or anything, it's just a fetish ;) Now, if you want to see a real obsession...

Some local stuff in So Flo

A friend here in South-East Florida asked what resources I would recommend to someone starting out as a top (with an interest in Rope Bondage) so I figured I'd share with you what I shared with her:

First, for lots of great free rope demonstrations and lessons - search on YouTube for "Two Knotty Boys"

Online training:
PowerPlayAcademy.org
CreativeSexuality.org (Might just be the business end of Power Play Academy)

Groups & Organizations:
TNG "the next generation"
SF TNG on FL: FL Group
"WOLF" Women of Leather Florida: FL Group (up to date)
or: womenofleatherflorida.org (outdated)
South Florida Munch: sfmunch.com
South Florida Guerilla Shibari: FL Group

Locations:
Command Performance (Pompano Bch) hosts regular events: commandperformance.net/events.html
LAC (Lake Worth) lifestylealternatives.org

BTW, as the friend who inquired is a lesbian, I didn't mention anything about the Club Fem group down here. That's a FemDom, male slave group that seems to be growing nationwide. And while a part of me thinks that it sounds like an awesome organization, I'm also put off by the "slave" and not "sub" aspect, and most particularly about the cuckolding that I've read about. Hey, if that's your thing - go have fun. But that's something I have zero interest in.

Daily Distraction #35 : Smoking Feast

This one goes out to my smoking fetish friends. It is simple, pure, Smoking Fetish.

Photos by Peter Lindenberg: pic - pic - pic - pic - pic

From "We Heart It" - to which I say, Oh, yes we do. pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic

Various Others: pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic - pic

So, if anyone can find a bigger version of that Elsa photo, by all means e-mail it on over!

Sex Map

I had to pass along the link for this cool little application site that lets you make your own "human sex map"

The site is aptly named: humansexmap.com

Click the pic to check out mine

Turning points

Turning points - I'm pretty sure that yesterday was one of those.

I don't know where it will lead. But I'm so grateful for both the compassion and cruelty that I was able to experience yesterday. With the support of my loving wife and under the guidance of Lady Regina, the Headmistress at Command Performance, the three of us have agreed to a contract (it is mostly mundane stuff) to instill a D/s dynamic into our lives. It's an exciting beginning and as of now, I'm just trying to temper my enthusiasm so that it doesn't eat me from the inside with a world of expectations. :)

There were a few things that I learned with certainty yesterday:
¤ First, a certain expression that I've been accustomed to using: "Whatever you wish, Mistress" sounds dramatically different to Lady Regina's ears than it does to my keyholding wife's.
¤ Second, when a Domina has an enema fetish, and you say "Whatever you wish" you might want to expect a big enema.
¤ Third, there is almost nothing that makes me feel more gratefully submissive than the obvious joy that comes from a Domiant woman indulging in her personal fetish.
¤ Lastly, I'm a very lucky man.

Who knows where it will all lead. For now, I just know that a part of me is still in that dreamy land called subspace. Then again, I still haven't been let out of my chastity cage yet either..

Smell like a monster

In case you missed the original - Old Spice Ad

Public Humilation?

Now, I'm not normally a fan of public humiliation. Actually I'm not really much of a fan of humiliation. At least I say that a good bit. But I had a discussion with someone a few weeks ago and recounted a story from years ago and it made me wonder a bit if this counted.

See, the woman I was with was a very occasional social smoker. We had been together for quite some time, and she was well aware of my fetish and kinks. We had an agreement that whenever possible I would light her cigarette.

The ceremony of a man lighting a woman's cigarette is a favorite of mine. Heck, even a woman lighting her own cigarette is sexy for me, since it's the beginning of the dance again.

But there's definitely something special with the lighting of a cigarette. The eye contact. The personal moment shared. The whole service and subby aspect. Hell folks, it the classic symbol of seduction, at least it was in about every movie from the 1940s and 50s. Heck, it just rips right though this little fetishists core! And I mean that in a good way ;)

And as such, the opportunity was something I always watched for. And usually I was right on top of it. Now that I don't smoke, I don't carry a lighter... but there have been times I wish I did. ;)

Anyway, the particular story I recounted (and heck I might've told it on this blog before since I've been babbling for so long now) was about one night we were out with a group of friends for a Christmas dinner. She bummed a cigarette from one of her girlfriends. She held it for a bit, waiting for me to notice and pull out my lighter. I know I saw it, but I was chatting away with a friend on the other side, and honestly I just completely blanked on the whole "routine" we had.

She snapped her fingers. Loudly. And gave me a super sexy faux angry glare. I fumbled for my lighter, lost in the moment entirely. Not even realizing that everyone sitting around us had caught the exchange.

I actually blushed a bit, and that's a rarity for me. After the moment was over, conversations went on, no one made a big deal about it - mercifully.

And then a few minutes later, one of the other women at the table leaned towards me and snapped her fingers for me to light her cigarette.

I nearly died of embarrassment. But I would've died happy. It just seemed so damned hot and natural and well... that's public humiliation, right? It is not on the scale of peopleofwalmart.com, but it counts, right?

And BTW, I am starting to think that people of walmart is inspiring some Dommes who are really into the public humiliation thing. Because I can't imagine how half these people would go out like that without someone "forcing" them to do it. Time and time again I suspect we are just witnessing the handiwork of some Mistresses.

One other humiliation thing with the lighting of the cigarette occurred to me while looking for appropriate pictures to use in this entry. The denial. For this fetishist, I can't think of any greater snub than when a woman turns away from your offer for a light and accepts another man's light, or even greater, lights her own. Leave it to Sophia Loren to show how it's done ;)

APB: Seductive Smoker - right

The correctly identified sexy seductress is, Ms. Roberta Weiss. Best known for her role as Flame Beaufort, on TV's Santa Barbara, which I obviously never saw. Ms. Weiss had the looks and the intensity to really get my heart pumping.Turns out the scene was from was a 1989 made for TV movie called "Frame Up Blues" - which is probably going to be impossible to find.

Which is extra sad because between that video clip, the remarks made by the persons who ID'd her in the clip, and the review of it at smoking sides, I sure want to see it.

The reviews: "Weiss smokes throughout, may be an IRLer due to her sexy smoking." and "She smoked (up) a storm."

The IMDB link for "Frame Up Blues, aka. "La danse du scorpion"

Heck, she even works the authoritative woman taking what she wants angle in this commercial. Which kinda makes me wonder if she was typecast as some take whatever she wants kind of man-eater, which than makes me wonder if I can rent the old Santa Barbara show, because she sure has it down pat.

Who knows, maybe someone will have it recorded on VHS and convert it for us all to see someday.

APB: Seductive Smoker - wrong

Last week I put out an APB for this seductive smoker and I got two responses. The first was wrong, but Mr. Pink deserves a nod of appreciation for reminding me of this lost beauty known as Robey, or Louise Robey. She is most likely best known for her 1984 dance hit: "One Night in Bangkok", but she also did modeling and acting.

Pink suggested it might've been from the Friday the 13th TV show, or perhaps as a murdering seductress in the 1992 film "Play Nice." At a quick glance I thought he might be right. The man in the APB clip looked a bit like the male lead from the movie, but I wasn't too convinced. Sadly, the film was not good enough that it has made it to DVD, nor could I find anything from it googling around. Plus, her listing on smoking sides included a mention of her smoking in her role on Friday the 13th (skip to 4:10 to see the smoking). But that clearly wasn't where the original APB came from.Want more? Checkout Google images. Or this little video of her being interviewed on the late late show - looking so perfectly late 80s with a huge mane of auburn hair, and a black leather dress.

Later in the week, the correct APB seductress ;)

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In totally unrelated news, if you want to get some sexy underthings, slickdeals says taht Fredricks of Hollywood is having a big sale.

More Basic Instincts

Every smoking fetishist knows about the movie Basic Instinct. Sharon Stone plays perhaps the most delightful murderous characters in cinematic history. She is intelligent, sexy, manipulative, sadistic, intimidating... yeah, she's great. Good enough that 14 years later, they made Basic Instinct 2 - without even writing a plot. Unless Sharon looking sexy while smoking counts as plot, I kinda do ;)

Anyway, I stumbled on this fun video via smokingsides. It is a couple clips of rehearsals from Basic Instinct. Obviously, my favorite scene is the one that starts at the 3 min mark. I'm sure you can guess why.


One thing particularly fun for me is the fact that Ms. Stone is smoking a different brand in this video clip than she does in the film. In the movie she smoked a cork filtered cigarette. But in this scene, it's an all white 100mm cigarette (from a soft pack no less.)

That makes me wonder if that was her personal brand of choice. Call me a fetishist if you want, but that just makes her all that much hotter. It's not like it wasn't obvious she was an "IRL" (in real life) smoker, but to also see that she was smoking an all white 100, well that's just a particular style that I find extra sexy.

I guess it shouldn't be that surprising to me, she was after all a Virgina Slims model from the late 80s to early 90s. Maybe she got free cigs for life or something. That sure would seem like smart marketing to me.

In other news, the APB from last week has been correctly (and incorrectly) ID'd, more on that tomorrow ;)