Oh, and though you can't see it in the pic, I'm quite sure there's a chastity belt lying somewhere just out of the picture frame, and the handcuffs are really digging into his wrists. Poor fellow. I wish he'd tag my hand and we'd swap out.
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Daily Distraction #37
The title of this is "Don't you dare cum" and I'm told it is by Duvet @ Lustomic. I'm not sure if that was the file's original title, but it fits.Oh, and though you can't see it in the pic, I'm quite sure there's a chastity belt lying somewhere just out of the picture frame, and the handcuffs are really digging into his wrists. Poor fellow. I wish he'd tag my hand and we'd swap out.
Oh, and though you can't see it in the pic, I'm quite sure there's a chastity belt lying somewhere just out of the picture frame, and the handcuffs are really digging into his wrists. Poor fellow. I wish he'd tag my hand and we'd swap out.
Happy Gobble Gobble everyone!
As a little way of giving thanks, I wanted to share some pics from the dungeon; visit the Command Performance Galleries
And don't eat too much turkey & stuffing or you'll never get back into that corset! :P
And don't eat too much turkey & stuffing or you'll never get back into that corset! :P
Wait til they find out *HOW* that happens.
When I first heard it I was sure they said "replicate" - but that's not quite it exactly.
Mainstream Chastity
Perhaps it's just another instance of kink as slapstick, but I noticed today in the trailer for what looks like a very silly movie "Your Highness" that the lovely Ms. Natalie Portman is wearing a chastity belt in one scene. It's not as easy to distinguish in the still pics, but in the age restricted movie trailer (skip to 1:30 for the chastity moment,) if you look closely at the spot low of her back, it clearly is metal and riveted.
Natalie Portman = hot. Natalie Portman in chastity, OMFG hot!
Natalie Portman = hot. Natalie Portman in chastity, OMFG hot!
Whattaweek
Wow. Just mind blowing. I don't even know how to write it all.
From the five days in chastity, to an evening with a few close new friends, to weather so perfect it's freaky to Waters & the Wall,
with so many smoking lovelies in their high heeled boots... to hearing wonderful key holding wife talking with our friend and mistress, Lady Regina. "He needs a thorough prostate milking..." to being tightly corsetted, soundly spanked, hooded and then being pushed over a bench and having my prostate pushed and prodded like never before!
Tell ya what, I'm soooo grateful to be out of that belt after that. Wow, whatta ride!
*sigh*
If you are jealous of me, you are not alone. I'm even jealous of me... My life is blessed.
Heck, even the Cowboys beat the Giants (too bad the Gators couldn't keep it together...)
BTW - for you latex or mainstream kink fans in general, keep an eye out for the 2010 Victoria's Secret show on CBS. Looks like it'll be an interesting one, the video starts off with a latex stocking, corset and glove wearing model who's tapping a riding crop in her hand. It's mostly latex fashion from there, but that's definitely one helluva start!
From the five days in chastity, to an evening with a few close new friends, to weather so perfect it's freaky to Waters & the Wall,
with so many smoking lovelies in their high heeled boots... to hearing wonderful key holding wife talking with our friend and mistress, Lady Regina. "He needs a thorough prostate milking..." to being tightly corsetted, soundly spanked, hooded and then being pushed over a bench and having my prostate pushed and prodded like never before! Tell ya what, I'm soooo grateful to be out of that belt after that. Wow, whatta ride!
*sigh*
If you are jealous of me, you are not alone. I'm even jealous of me... My life is blessed.Heck, even the Cowboys beat the Giants (too bad the Gators couldn't keep it together...)
BTW - for you latex or mainstream kink fans in general, keep an eye out for the 2010 Victoria's Secret show on CBS. Looks like it'll be an interesting one, the video starts off with a latex stocking, corset and glove wearing model who's tapping a riding crop in her hand. It's mostly latex fashion from there, but that's definitely one helluva start!
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Thanks for the Veterans
This is totally OT as to the blog, but I thought this bit was funny and as appropriate on this day as any other video might've been. As an American, I want to thank all of those who serve and have served.
Clarity about chastity and more.
I've had the bulk of this written for a while, but I wanted to make sure I put it out there to answer various questions that I'm getting based on primarily on two posts. First my "turning point" post and second my "careful what you wish for" entry. There are other posts in the past as well that I want to answer, but those first two seem to be getting the bulk of inquiries.
First, please feel free to submit questions here as comments on the blog. You can do them anonymously, and I try to reply to them there. That way everyone who wants can read the reply and learn from the discourse. But if that really freaks you out, you can always e-mail me and I'll respect whatever privacy concerns you have.
Now, to the meat & potatoes as they say. First, my wife is my keyholder. Lady Regina does not have access to the keys and as things presently stand that's the way it is. If my wife or Lady Regina would want to discuss a change to that dynamic I'm open to it. I'm kinda open to discussing whatever at this point - and discussing is different than doing. But the bottom line is my chastity belongs to my wife. We consider ourselves to be a monogamous couple. Some might define it differently because we do play with other people, however the right to do anything that might lead to orgasm is something that we agree stays just between us and in our relationship. Obviously there's a sexual component to BDSM. Even something as classical as an OTK (Over the knee) spanking is very sexual to many.
I've seen men put my wife's foot or heel on their crotch while giving her a foot massage. I've had dominant women digitally massage my prostate, or insert an enema tube. None of that would bring us to orgasm, but to some that might be non-monogamous. Clearly it's one of those to each their own things, but I wanted to just put that out there since I've received a few interesting notes from people (almost all supportive) that seemed unclear about what our own limits are.
The other night I was having a conversation with my friend and Mistress (I guess technically that's right... right?) Lady Regina, and she asked me what was it that originally interested me in chastity. I put it simply, control. To me, being locked into a chastity is the ultimate in personal control. It means my keyholder has the actual ability to deny or allow my sexual release. Sure, I might have nocturnal emissions after a point if I'm kept in long enough, and lots of guys have found that if they use a strong enough vibe they can get an "unsatisfactory orgasm" - but the point of wearing a device is that I (ideally) have no choice but to wait until I am unlocked in order to have an orgasm.
Lady Regina had been friends with a gay sissy boi a few years earlier who had no understanding or interest in wearing a chastity device. He'd played with several masters, they all put him on honor system chastity. He couldn't understand why someone was so "weak" (his word) that they would need a device to demonstrate devotion. "Nothing quite like pride in your kink, is there?" I responded.
Personally I loathe when people judge what others do as wrong, and that's what his remark of weak implied. I used to be really surprised that kinky people could be like that. After all, we're so far outside the boundary of what's "normal" that I thought acceptance and tolerance for others variations would be the norm. Heck, I couldn't really understand how anyone would be so self absorbed to think that they have the "right" way to do such a fringe activity. But over the years, I've learned to accept that most kinksters are ultimately just like every other group out there in the world. Many seem to inherently want to become an "us" and "them." I ultimately dismiss this as the "my way is right, or better way" kind of attitude. For some the use of a device seems absurd. For others, the idea of escaping from a device seems absurd. For me, both of those are essential to making it seem real enough to be truly exciting.
So, whatever blows your skirt up sissy boy! I'm glad you're having your fun without chastity. To me, the honor system would be a whole lot less fun, frankly I would find it more tedious. Plus, I wonder how anyone couldn't rebel a bit. Isn't it more fun to tame a stallion who fights back than to just push over a cow? And FWIW, I really liked how Lady Regina put it to him - "Sure, you can stop from masturbating... but why do you insist on bondage? Can't you just hold still while someone disciplines you too?"
It is not a new discussion at all. Goes on all the time in various chastity and on a larger scale, just about any kink forums that I've been on. Another domme remarked some time ago "I am simply articulating my confusion over a cock-obsessed male submissive who requires a toy to make him obey his Mistress' wishes involving chastity"
I donno how cock obsessed most males are, I know I'm not as obsessed as I once was, but I'm not 25 anymore either. But aren't we all a little focused on what we have? Like sight? We like to see things right? Touch? Is touching something bad? Why do some people in the scene seem to revolt at the fact that men experience sexual arousal? Why is it somehow shed into a bad light? If it's part of what drives us, well... just use it to steer!
I think NYC's Mistress Katya, put it beautifully: "Anyone can say "don't do that" but when someone says "Now you can't do it" and they lock your dick up, well, the story changes." Wow. How succinct. How accurate. How that makes my belt tight!
Personally, I have learned to enjoy sessioning both with and without the chance to orgasm. When I'm locked up and my key is at home, it completely alters the dynamic. It's not better, nor worse. It's just different. And if you think it's tougher to do, try sessioning right after an orgasm. Now that's a might bit tougher.
I would like to add that in our dynamic the release from chastity isn't any kind of specific reward. I don't "earn" it per se. Release from the belt is given when the desire hits. But I have also learned that release without any fan fare can definitely be a let down. Especially after several days in lockup. Being able to easily negotiate my way out of chastity makes it feel very superficial... "toppy from the bottom" - but that is a whole nother topic ;)
First, please feel free to submit questions here as comments on the blog. You can do them anonymously, and I try to reply to them there. That way everyone who wants can read the reply and learn from the discourse. But if that really freaks you out, you can always e-mail me and I'll respect whatever privacy concerns you have.
Now, to the meat & potatoes as they say. First, my wife is my keyholder. Lady Regina does not have access to the keys and as things presently stand that's the way it is. If my wife or Lady Regina would want to discuss a change to that dynamic I'm open to it. I'm kinda open to discussing whatever at this point - and discussing is different than doing. But the bottom line is my chastity belongs to my wife. We consider ourselves to be a monogamous couple. Some might define it differently because we do play with other people, however the right to do anything that might lead to orgasm is something that we agree stays just between us and in our relationship. Obviously there's a sexual component to BDSM. Even something as classical as an OTK (Over the knee) spanking is very sexual to many. I've seen men put my wife's foot or heel on their crotch while giving her a foot massage. I've had dominant women digitally massage my prostate, or insert an enema tube. None of that would bring us to orgasm, but to some that might be non-monogamous. Clearly it's one of those to each their own things, but I wanted to just put that out there since I've received a few interesting notes from people (almost all supportive) that seemed unclear about what our own limits are.
The other night I was having a conversation with my friend and Mistress (I guess technically that's right... right?) Lady Regina, and she asked me what was it that originally interested me in chastity. I put it simply, control. To me, being locked into a chastity is the ultimate in personal control. It means my keyholder has the actual ability to deny or allow my sexual release. Sure, I might have nocturnal emissions after a point if I'm kept in long enough, and lots of guys have found that if they use a strong enough vibe they can get an "unsatisfactory orgasm" - but the point of wearing a device is that I (ideally) have no choice but to wait until I am unlocked in order to have an orgasm.Lady Regina had been friends with a gay sissy boi a few years earlier who had no understanding or interest in wearing a chastity device. He'd played with several masters, they all put him on honor system chastity. He couldn't understand why someone was so "weak" (his word) that they would need a device to demonstrate devotion. "Nothing quite like pride in your kink, is there?" I responded.
Personally I loathe when people judge what others do as wrong, and that's what his remark of weak implied. I used to be really surprised that kinky people could be like that. After all, we're so far outside the boundary of what's "normal" that I thought acceptance and tolerance for others variations would be the norm. Heck, I couldn't really understand how anyone would be so self absorbed to think that they have the "right" way to do such a fringe activity. But over the years, I've learned to accept that most kinksters are ultimately just like every other group out there in the world. Many seem to inherently want to become an "us" and "them." I ultimately dismiss this as the "my way is right, or better way" kind of attitude. For some the use of a device seems absurd. For others, the idea of escaping from a device seems absurd. For me, both of those are essential to making it seem real enough to be truly exciting.
So, whatever blows your skirt up sissy boy! I'm glad you're having your fun without chastity. To me, the honor system would be a whole lot less fun, frankly I would find it more tedious. Plus, I wonder how anyone couldn't rebel a bit. Isn't it more fun to tame a stallion who fights back than to just push over a cow? And FWIW, I really liked how Lady Regina put it to him - "Sure, you can stop from masturbating... but why do you insist on bondage? Can't you just hold still while someone disciplines you too?"It is not a new discussion at all. Goes on all the time in various chastity and on a larger scale, just about any kink forums that I've been on. Another domme remarked some time ago "I am simply articulating my confusion over a cock-obsessed male submissive who requires a toy to make him obey his Mistress' wishes involving chastity"
I donno how cock obsessed most males are, I know I'm not as obsessed as I once was, but I'm not 25 anymore either. But aren't we all a little focused on what we have? Like sight? We like to see things right? Touch? Is touching something bad? Why do some people in the scene seem to revolt at the fact that men experience sexual arousal? Why is it somehow shed into a bad light? If it's part of what drives us, well... just use it to steer!
I think NYC's Mistress Katya, put it beautifully: "Anyone can say "don't do that" but when someone says "Now you can't do it" and they lock your dick up, well, the story changes." Wow. How succinct. How accurate. How that makes my belt tight!
Personally, I have learned to enjoy sessioning both with and without the chance to orgasm. When I'm locked up and my key is at home, it completely alters the dynamic. It's not better, nor worse. It's just different. And if you think it's tougher to do, try sessioning right after an orgasm. Now that's a might bit tougher.
I would like to add that in our dynamic the release from chastity isn't any kind of specific reward. I don't "earn" it per se. Release from the belt is given when the desire hits. But I have also learned that release without any fan fare can definitely be a let down. Especially after several days in lockup. Being able to easily negotiate my way out of chastity makes it feel very superficial... "toppy from the bottom" - but that is a whole nother topic ;)
Standard Issue Riding Crop
I'm not sure what the context of this picture is, but I do appreciate that this clearly is some kind of uniform and it's all very official. And I'm a fan of a woman in uniform.
Especially when it's like this, over the knee high heeled boots, and riding crops. Yes, that's all clearly very official...
For more of Ms. Electra in this outfit - checkout the kinkygerlinky forum.
Especially when it's like this, over the knee high heeled boots, and riding crops. Yes, that's all clearly very official...
For more of Ms. Electra in this outfit - checkout the kinkygerlinky forum.
Locks of Love
I guess that kind of thing isn't exclusive to people who incorporate chastity in their lives ;)
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